It’s my first Valentine’s Day as a wife and I had planned nothing! I’ve been a procrastinator this year on celebrations, but I have a good excuse (more details to come later). Tony and I agreed to not buy presents and not to eat out this year for V-Day because we don’t want to contribute to this consumerism holiday. At least that’s the excuse we came up with, but frankly we’re just lazy and cheap. I’m surprised that Tony agreed to this because I could just flip the switch and say that I wanted flowers and chocolate.
It’s been an interesting period in our lives, with being newly married and learning to live with each other. I’ve never had a roommate (Janelle, you so easy to live with, it was like I was living by myself), so I didn’t know how to deal with roommate problems. Growing up as an only child, I also didn’t really learn to share my space. So the combination of those two made it hard for me to figure little roommate things out with Tony. After struggling to understand why he didn’t hang his coats after getting home and why he left dishes in the sink, I was imparted marriage wisdom from Tony’s cousin. She pointed out to me that my definition of “clean” isn’t Tony’s. *Ding* *Ding* *Ding* That was when I realized I have been selfish this whole time. I’ve been holding Tony to my standards and not looking at things from his perspective. No marriage is perfect and I shouldn’t expect mine to be. If Tony did everything exactly the way I would, then I would be marrying myself.
So just because we aren’t doing all the typical V-Day things, it doesn’t mean we aren’t celebrating love. Whatever we end up doing tonight (likely eat dinner, ice-cream, then watch the Olympics), we will be celebrating our imperfect marriage. It’s the imperfection that makes us grow in faith, hope and love.
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